I’m not going to lie, I’m almost as anti-Valentine’s Day as it comes.
Maybe it was the awkwardness of high school crushes; the complete cheesiness of secret admirers leaving teddy bears and flowers in girls lockers; or waiting on couples who decide to go out on the busiest restaurant night of the year that turned me into the Anti-Valentines Day girlfriend I am today.
As a little kid, Valentine’s Day is all about getting Valentines and candy from everyone in your class. As a teenager, Valentine’s Day is all about telling someone how you feel about them by buying them a teddy bear and asking them to a dance. As adults, its all about high expectations, overpriced flowers, and occasionally the cheesy wedding proposal on a bed of heart shaped roses that make February 14th oh so special. If you can’t pick up on my sarcasm, it’s there.
Not to get all personal, but I’ve been in a relationship for two and a half years and we have yet to celebrate a Valentines Day, by choice and distance barriers, also the lack of caring aspect. So me writing a post on a ‘Couples Valentines Day’ is kind of ironic. But don’t stop reading right away. I’ve turned over a new leaf. Maybe there is a sense of cheesiness, commercialization, and ‘Hallmark’ factor involved in such a holiday. But why should that matter. Some people are so busy, and wrapped up in school, work, and life that maybe it’s nice for them to have a day to act extra special to that significant other.
Bottom line: no matter whether you are a couple who celebrates or not, it’s nice to tell someone you love them or do something special with them every once in awhile, whether it’s on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year. All of you Anti-Valentines Day people out there, coming from someone who knows, celebrate at least one Valentines Day in your life, no matter how cheesy or sarcastic it may be. And for all of you couples who regularly celebrate, do something special for your partner on a random day; don’t just leave it to February 14th to show your love.
That being said, here are a few small ideas to show your love, either on Valentine’s Day, or any day:
- For Guys: Get your significant other flowers. Everyone likes flowers no matter how much they admit they hate it.
- Prepare a home-cooked meal and dessert of their choice.
- Leave them a note. It doesn’t have to be a love letter, but just something cute, fun, and unexpected that will brighten their day.
- Stock the freezer with a tub of their favorite ice cream, and buy all their favorite toppings.
- Recreate your first date or kiss down to the time, setting, and atmosphere.
- Surprise them with breakfast in bed. Even if it’s their favorite type of bagel from the deli across the street, sometimes simple is better than elaborate.
- Go out to eat! To avoid crowds, go out the day before or after. Or if you’re willing to go out on Valentines Day, many restaurants take reservations and have couples specials.
- Turn your living room into a movie theater, with popcorn, both of your favorite candies, and their favorite movie.
- Go for a drive, make an awesome playlist and enjoy each other’s company.
- Spend the day doing absolutely nothing with that one person. Because in the end, you’ll remember time spent together above all.
Happy V-Day, or Anti-V Day Couples!